Loving Yourself + A Chocolate Covered Strawberry Recipe!
Happy Valentines Day!
I love Valentine’s Day! Because there’s not only chocolate, but whether you’re celebrating with a significant other or not, there’s someone you can show your love to and people in your life who love you back. We should never be ashamed of showing love or telling others we love them!
This weekend I’m in Chicago celebrating Galentine’s Day with some of my best girlfriends. Galentines is a day for the gals! Galentine’s Day is usually celebrated on February 13th. One of my good friends invited a bunch of us over for a night of celebration and we all need a bit more of that in our lives. We need women lifting up other women. All of the lovely ladies in attendance (and of course many others) have impacted my life in such a positive way and continue to hype me up.
The girls I will be seeing tonight, specifically, were my roommates in college. They’re so important to me because they loved me during a time in my life where I couldn’t love myself. They saw my dark days of my eating disorder and continuously approached myself/my situation with compassion and kindness.
Everyone’s got flaws- it’s unavoidable and something we shouldn’t be avoiding. We’re unique and beautiful and magical. Perfectly imperfect. I think it’s something everyone struggles with- wanting to be perfect or parts of their life to be perfect. I also think it’s a beautiful thing that I got to be surrounded by a group of women for four years of college who didn’t tear each other down. We allowed each other’s quirks and “flaws” to shine, because they made us who we are. Apologizing for who you are was not allowed. I would never expect my friends to be anything less and vice versa.
I think I can speak for all of us when I say it’s so easy to love each other, tell one another they are beautiful, funny, smart, courageous, and capable of anything, but it’s so fucking hard to tell those things to yourself. Like some days impossible. You could literally just be having a bad hair day and then all of a sudden it goes from, “well my hair doesn’t look good today so I’m not pretty today. If I’m not pretty today then how am I worth anyone’s time and if my hair doesn’t look good my body is obviously shit and none of my clothes fit how I want them too so I can’t go to this class that I’m clearly not smart enough for…” AND ON AND ON. We beat ourselves down until we hate ourselves and this could last for hours or days.
It takes work to change your mindset and effort to give yourself a compliment. Why is it so hard? I don’t know. I’ve come a long way to loving myself and my body. It’s ironic because when I was at my most malnourished and lowest body weight- I don’t think I’ve ever hated myself or my body more. It’s funny because your mind is telling you to continue to lose weight and that you’re not small enough, but even at your lowest weight and your body is crying out for help and to our beauty ideal you’re perfect, you hate your body.
I had to tell myself that everything our mind tells us isn’t true. I had to remind myself to talk to myself how I would talk to my friends. Hype myself up like I would hype up my best friends. Because it’s true. When I tell my friends they are capable, empowering, impactful, etc. I 100% mean it. So what we need to do is just turn that around to ourselves.
I have some tips to get you out of your head and move forward to showing yourself some love!
1. Write compliments to yourself on your mirror
2. At night, journal three things you accomplished that day (could be as simple as “I got out of bed today.”
3. Make yourself your favorite breakfast ever! Start off the day feeling great.
4. Set aside five minutes during the day to stretch while playing your favorite pump up songs. It’ll get your endorphins flowing.
5. Put on a face mask and write down five things you love about yourself. Even if you don’t believe them in the morning.
6. In your planner, at the end of each day, write a compliment to yourself.
7. If this is monetarily feasible for you, send yourself flowers.
8. At the end of each month, create a jar full of things 30/31 that make you laugh, pictures, compliments, or quotes for the next month. Each day, pull one out and read it :)
9. Find body positive accounts online and unfollow the accounts you know are no longer serving you.
So the journey to loving yourself/your body is not always a linear one or something where one day you completely love yourself and never look back. Loving ourselves is a daily work in progress, as long as you promise to love yourself a little more than the day before :)
Chocolate Covered Strawberries
Hu Kitchen chocolate chips (dark chocolate)
Enjoy Life chocolate chips (semi-sweet)
Strawberries- as many as your heart desires
Was your strawberries thoroughly and pat dry. Take both Hu Kitchen chocolates and Enjoy Life chocolates and melt in the microwave on 30 second intervals, stirring after each. Once the chocolate is melted, dip the strawberries into the melted chocolate and place on a baking sheet with wax paper. Sprinkle the strawberries with chocolate chips, cacao nibs, sprinkles, whatever! Set outside or in the fridge to harden. Preserve in the fridge or in the cold outside and enjoy!